cofusion

[nikki1979]

allright, this is my first thread , please please please dont think im a freak.
alright im happily married and have a hellea good sex life. but ive wanted to , not exactly try NEW things but relive old one i guess (well they be new things for my husband) ive been wanting him to bring home a friend one night (guy or girl it dont matter) but so far it hasnt happened , i tod himit wud be ok w me like 2 yrs ago. i always thought guys luved to see thier wife and another hot woman (ive never tried w a girl but ive wanted to) , is that just all rumors ? im i just like a super freak fr wanting him to do this???:confused: :confused: :confused:

[Lilith]

nikki1979~ I understand where you are coming from completely. I am just at a place in my life where I want a lot of new and varied experiences. I am dying for a MMF but it's something he is just not ready for.

[nikki1979]

yeah my hubbys not cool w that yet either and im ok w it , but since im the one that wants spice im willing for a FFM lol

[Aqua]

No worries nikki, what's wrong with being a freak? :p Most guys would definitely like to see their S/O get it on with another gal. It's not always easy to find the right 3rd person though. You told him it would be ok, but did you ask if it is okay with him? Have you tried to find another partner yourself? Mayhaps hubby is not that interested in sharing you. Talk to him about it when he comes home.

By the way... there are lots of self proclaimed freaks here... Like me!... so don't be afraid to ask questions. Or, if you want, pm me (and I know Lilith wouldn't mind if you pm either) if you need/want reassurance before you post something.

[nikki1979]

yeah i asked him 2 yrs ago when i told him i wanted to , he said it be hot.... u think maybe he lied?

[osuche]

"Saying" it would be hot and DOING it are two different things. Especially with guys, I've found.

There are a few possibilities:
(1) Got cold feet
(2) Activation energy (he doesn't have the energy to find the person
(3) It isn't his fantasy, so he figures you'll lead

Good luck; communication should fix this one.

Signed,
Fellow freak :D

[babybunny]

Talking about it and allowing/participatiing in it are 2 different things. Still working on a MFM here but if anything were to happen it would prob be a FFM...Not that I mind I just would enjoy getting my wish in return as well. :)

[nikki1979]

id have to agree. im hoping if i do an ffm w him that hell let me a mmf.. i just dont know , i spose hes cahnged his mind and chickened out, pity.

[Steph]

Get some porn with MMF and FMF action and see if that heats him up. Talk to him about it . . . maybe even talk dirty about it during sex and see how he reacts.

[calihotguy]

I don't know much about your relationship, but maybe he also worries that throwing in someone else (sex aside), might put a strain on your emotional relationship...jealousy issues, adding someone else's feelings into the mix...I find in a committed relationship a threesome only can work if both parties are extrememly comfortabel and safe with the other partner, that there are no insecurities or mistrust, best bet is to stop talking to us about it and start talking to him about all these things you are saying. =)

[nikki1979]

act when he gets back from deployment i will talk to him about it, who knows when thatll be! lol
gotta luv being a military wife huh?

[Wildeye]

nikki

you need to talk and be very honest.

reality and fantasy are very different - how would you feel if another woman sucked his cock in front of you?

how will he feel seeing another guys cock buried in your pussy?

what do you want from mmf - two cocks or seeing all of you get it on? Is he scared of the possibility of being gay? or Bi?

TALK sex is in the head not just between your legs, though it is a good place to start.

Wildeye

[darkangel37]

I wld like to do a mmf (I'm no way gay but liberal minded) but my S/O wlnd't be up for it. Guess you have to go with the majority?

In the mean time.......

[Vullkan]

Ms Nikkie1979

All the other posts have said it as well or better then I could have, that communication is the Key.

Somehow when you get your S/O into this discussion, you will need to discuss all aspects of the mmf and/or mff. What are your expectations of things to happen. For example in a mmf--what would the "other" get to do--what do expectations of your S/O involvement with him--do you use rain coats and etc.

Men like knowing the details ahead of time especially if it is a first time and by discussing it you may find why this may or may not be an option in your relationship

[PantyFanatic]

I agree with that.

[NightRider]

It's agravating reading these posts in a way. I would love to do a three-way or more way. But my wife isn't interested...... Damn......