How do I last longer?

[Incubated]

Other that doubling up (a bit awkward) and creams (no thanks) how else can I last longer?

[Gilly]

Have you tried a cock ring? They pinch off the blood supply, which is supposed to hold an erection longer.

[Steph]

I'm going to guess you're a younger member so I'll suggest going twice. You can do it! :D

[Gilly]

If you need cheerleaders, we can do that, too :D

[BigBear57]

I remember asking my Dad that same question once, he said the best way to keep it up is "don't fuck with it" LOL

[TinTennessee]

ROFLMAO.....I bet you took his advice too Bear

[katekate42]

Hmm, the boyfriend had some issues with that (Note: HE had issues with that, I didn't really see much of a problem myself...) and tried the condoms with the cream in them-- my advice is just say no. Those caused a problem... He was apparently sensitive to them and they blocked out all sensation, resulting in a numb penis for a few hours! YIKES! My advice is to slow the sex down a bit- when you feel close, stop for a few minutes and rest- eventually you'll be able to take more stimulation without coming. Good luck :)

[mystical]

Try to lessen the stress in your life and know your "point of no return", stop and then start up again after that feeling subsides. I've also found that the more experience and amount of times especially consequtive (sorry for the spelling) days will help.

[Loulabelle]

Just practise using a little bit of control, stopping everytime you feel yourself coming close to orgasm until you manage to regain control.....you should be able to last a little longer each time.

[kinx]

If you have a date tomorrow, masturbate today. Take your vitamins and get a good nights sleep. You'll be ready for a longer session the next day.

[Hocque]

I know when I dont want to cum and last longer. I change postions. It works everytime. It doesnt have to be big changes. Even little things like lifting her butt up or putting her legs on your chest or think about baseball ;) .

Hocque

[Loulabelle]

Originally posted by Hocque
I know when I dont want to cum and last longer. I change postions. It works everytime. It doesnt have to be big changes. Even little things like lifting her butt up or putting her legs on your chest or think about baseball ;) .

Hocque

Mmmmmm - changing positions makes for great sex too....your lover will think you're spontaneous, generous and imaginative in bed......added to which you may well last longer, which will add to her pleasure as well!

Sounds like a recipe for success to me, Hocque - well suggested.

Oh and by experimenting with positions, you'll also learn which positions make you cum easier too, so you can avoid those particular ones, if your not yet ready to relinquish to the sweet pleasure of orgasm.

[wyndhy]

think about baseball? picture your mom naked? pretend you're giving it to the queen of england? :confused:

sorry, i couldn't resist. i don't really have anything useful to add.

[denny]

Originally posted by wyndhy
think about baseball? picture your mom naked? pretend you're giving it to the queen of england? :confused:

sorry, i couldn't resist. i don't really have anything useful to add. Don't laugh. Thinking unrelated thoughts can be effective. Not much fun, but effective.

[imaginewithme]

I know you said you're not interested in creams but I bought "Mandelay" for my husband, more as a joke, and it sure does work.

[LavaLamp]

I have never really posted on here before...

I used to stress about this, but it's not really an issue any longer. One thing that really works for me is making sure I breath. When I take deep breathes, I seem to last longer and it helps "relax" things. Changing positions works, but you should really learn your triggers.

For instance, I communicate with my partner. When she says, "I'm gonna cum!," that can often push me over the edge. I've learned to adapt to that so now I'm sorta of desensitized to the first one or two. Certain positions also really do it for me, so if there is something that is hard to hold back on, save that for the finale!

You can't go wrong just going again after your first climax, though. After you finish the first time, stimulate her orally for awhile, and when you are ready again, the sex will last for much longer, and HER head will be ready to explode after awhile.