ever have that feeling

[Mercury_Maniac]

that you could be gay..........it scares the hell outta me




i mean i like naked women and all, but sometimes i just get a feeling like what if,


and i don't know what to think because i've never been laid so i think if had sex with a woman i think i would know that like women for sure

it makes me wish that i had a sex life in high school
and i still dont' have one (maybe this scarred me)




and being a virgin is driving me fucking nuts!

[Lilith]

Hey MM.....don't get hung up on it babes. You are gonna fall in love or lust with someone, someday. Just let it happen. It doesn't matter what sex the person is, it matters how you feel when you are with them.

[Mercury_Maniac]

but i always have women on my mind, and some very hot dreams with girls that i know
a few in peticular

but theirs always that thought that just pops in from time to time

[IAKaraokeGirl]

People are naturally curious about things in general, and sex in particular, whether they admit it or not, although the types/depths/specifics of the curiousity might differ. Like Lil, I'm sure you'll be fine, no matter what!

[Lilith]

Have you ever been in love with a boy?

[Mercury_Maniac]

no i haven't,

i'm not really familiar with love,

but i do believe that i have been a love with a few girls that i know, i mean does thinking about them 24/7, and feeling your heart jump everytime you see them mean anything?

[Lilith]

Yep that's how it starts. MM just be, whatever it is you need to be.

[FallenAngel5]

I just have to ask... why does the thought that you may be gay scare you? Even it's just a possibility, that is who you are, and you shouldn't be afraid of it.

[cowgirltease]

Honey I think you just have a curious mind. It's normal. I've talked to a psychiatrist about this before. He said children do it too.

[Mercury_Maniac]

i'm not saying that being gay is wrong,

but i don't want to be gay,

i want a woman!!

I just think my mind is just really clouded about the whole thing because i've never really had a relationship with a girl and maybe if i met a girl that is actually interested in me and gives me the attention i need, that things would change in my head and i wouldn't have doubts

i'm just really turned off (angry) of women right now because they never notice me or look interested at all........

[SuzyQ]

You have to be interested in women for them to be interested in you...and interested in what they like and think, not just for sex or a relationship. you show an interest in what she is and it almost a given she will be interested in you....

[SuzyQ]

Oh and almost forgot..make sure your teeth are brushed and you are using deoderant...dirty teeth, unwashed and no deoderant are huge things that make me uninterested in either men or women.

[Nice Guy]

MM I wouldn't worry to much about it. The fact that you are being honest and actually admitting that the thought does pop into your head now and again means a lot. You think about women from the sounds of it quite often, but it doesn't sound like you are doing this to compensate for the other thoughts. If I was to take an educated guess, I'd say you are normal and not to worry.

[XX-Access]

If you truely enjoy/have enjoyed thinking of women, you cannot be gay... Bi, perhaps, which I refer to as "JACKPOT!!!".

[jennaflower]

"Jackpot"... OH.. I love that :) What a wonderful way to embrace ones sexuality...

MM.. don't sweat it.. I believe it is completely normal to have fantasies about either gender... it is whether or not you choose to act out on them that will ultimately guide your preference... Be open.. don't close yourself off from any opportunity.. and most of all.. don't be scared... it is all a part of life.

:)

[lakritze]

When you use phrases like "lack the ability" and "unable to compete" one might get the impression that a physical problem makes sex impossible for you.Checked your profile.Lets see,you are 20 years old,so whats the problem? There is really no need to rush into anything you are not ready for.It is a good time in your life to cultivate friends of both sexes and enjoy their company.Relax, you are not gay.At best you are bi curious. There is nothing wrong with that.

[Mercury_Maniac]

wow thanks for the great responses people,

i'm feeling alot better about it now,

its just that life hasn't been easy in the relationship section,

and i hope that it changes soon

[imaginewithme]

To tell you the truth, when I was younger I thought "oh man am I gay for thinking women are beautiful?".....but I'm not....I know that I can think women are hot but I still need a MAN in my bedroom because that is what will turn me on the most.

Don't worry mm, it'll happen, i know it!