I like to dominate her...

[Playful1]

So DangerousPet and I are still fairly new to this whole dominating bit but the more we read the stories and the more we try the more we both agree how much we like it.

But we both do it for the mutual enjoyment of it over the agression to it, so I wanted to throw the question out to all the women (and men if you have any suggestions) of just what turns you on or what ideas / suggestions you might have to increase the whole scene. She is a huge fan of being tied up and of using ice but I'm looking for some more low key ideas (no whips or such)

Also, if someone could find a leather bikini or leather underwear set I think I know what I want to get my pet for christmas....

[Teddy Bear]

So many things.... and besides objects, remember climax control.

A good site is www.castlerealm.com

There are tons of places to buy leather.
Here's a few to start:

http://www.bikeweekleathers.com/catalog.php?action=110&cat_id=29

http://www.leathercat.com/leather_bikini_sets.htm

http://www.adamleathers.com/alamo/brittiefronl.html

http://sassyassyb.zoovy.com/product/ALLURE4641


Good luck and have fun! Remember to 'play' safe!

teddy :)

[cowgirltease]

What turns me on is ........when I say no and he says yes and makes me like it. :devil:

[Lilith]

If she likes being tied, I would suggest restraints as a gift. Handcuffs, velcro cuffs, a spreader bar is fun, or even a set of sexy scarves with a note attached saying what you plan to do to her once the scarves are secured. *shivvvvvers*

[DangerousPet]

Ohh... Lil, i like your idea! hey hunny... see above ^^^ :better:

I find that anticipation is very arousing

[darogle]

Blindfold her, tie her up and tease, tease, tease!!! Never let her know when or where the next touch is coming from.

[gekkogecko]

The most efective dominance games are the ones where the sub is kept guessing. Agree upon absolute limits wel beforehand, and keep a safeword handy (preferably one that is intelligible even through a gag). But within those limits, keep the sub guessing.

For example, when I do play spanking games, I often set up a regular rhythm with what ever instrument I'm usiing, and every now and then will pull as the last minute and not make contact.

You might try bindfolding her and giving your self freedom of movement around the bed/bench/chair/etc and using physical touch to tease. Never let her know what's coming next This can be done with touch of varible level, anywhere from a light caress to a heavy smack. Heavyness of touch is pretty irrelevant.

I might have some other suggestions later.

[Playful1]

See we are not quite into the physical bit so much. Yeah there is some spanking but its a lot of forcing her down, telling her what to do. I may have to invest in some regular restraints aside from ropes and belts.

Gekko, what is a suggestion for a safety word?

[cherrypie7788]

Any word that you would probably not utter normally during sex. No isn't a good one lol

[gekkogecko]

Gekko, what is a suggestion for a safety word?

"Banana": it comes through a gag well.

[Pita]

All great suggestions and thanks for the links Teddy Bear.;)

I like being blindfolded and not knowing what is coming next. Hands tied over my head so I can pull on the restraints. Having the flogger used soft or hard :drool: TOYS used!!!!

Like Darogle said tease, tease, tease!! :D

[Lilith]

"Banana": it comes through a gag well.
hippopotamus...no mono-syllabic words. I think it has to be a word that does not require clear pronunciation to be understood.

[Teddy Bear]

If a safe word is used all play must stop immediately.
For this reason some Dom/mes like to use 'yellow light' and 'red light' as safe words.
If the sub says 'yellow light', meaning I'm very close to using my safe word, rather then stopping completely they can change what their doing and play can continue.
But 'red light' stops everything.

[dicksbro]

:drool: