At what point are you considered a "couple" in a relationship?

[phelan]

Out of curiosity as peers and I were discussing this in the car along the way back. At what point do you move from "I'm dating someone" to "I have a boy/girlfriend"? I know it may vary from person to person but there's usually one distinguishing thing, what is it for pixie members.

[BigBear57]

I think it's at the point you both decide to be exclusive, if such a time exists. It's always a bitch when one of us decides and assumes the other feels the same way though ain't it? :hair:

[Steph]

I don't find that there's one defining moment. Sometimes it's decided on the first date, sometimes it takes months. Maybe when you realize you're in love?

[Loulabelle]

With Fussy, it got to the point when I just needed to say, 'We've been seeing/sleeping together every weekend are we actually a couple? I'd really like to be able to call you 'boyfriend' and not just 'some guy I'm shagging''

[WildIrish]

and not just 'some guy I'm shagging''


I wouldn't object to that term at all. :hot: :D

[mayhem1978]

i agree with everything said here. Its that moment when you both decided that this relationship is gonna last longer than that first night. The moment you wake up next to that person and realise that you truly love that person.

[Mark Vieth]

Well I think it all depends on how long you have known your partner. I myself have known this girl that I am seeing now for 4 years before we got together. Obviously it was the next most logical step for us to get together and start seeing each other as a couple. It also depends on how you feel about each other as well. It varies from person to person. Put it this way, everyones intuition usually tells them so anyway.

[Pussy Willow]

I've married going on 21 yrs. and for us it was when we started seeing each
other on a regular basis and not seeing other people at the same time.

[jseal]

phelan,

How about when both agree that they're a couple?

[Cjack]

I think it's when you make that exclusive commentment.

[ILikeItRough]

it depends i think. whenever the both of you feel its ok to become exlusive i guess..

and what bigbear said reminded me of when i was younger.... i had just gotten out of a 3 and a half year relationship when i was 17 and was un aware that there was a difference between just dating, being a couple and friends with benefits lol (what? that guy had me sheltered from the world! besides, all my friends were loners and didnt go out much so no one was theer to inform me of that stuff) anyways, i met this guy and we hooked up and i assumed he was my bf.... so i was goin around tellin everyone we were together and all... that was embarrassing when i found out we weren't lol. *feels like a dork*

[OzKristin]

yea, since i've been single now for a couple of months i'm very much anti saying i have a boyfriend-cuz i don't anyway lol, and for lack of better words to sound presentable instead of telling my family "yeah i have a few guys on the side, i'm friends with benefits w/ them" lol I just say that I've "seen a few guys periodically,but it's nothing major". I am however starting to officially 'see' a guy, he really is awesome, won't be interested in calling him a boyfriend for a long time anyway-plus we'll see what happens, you know? So yea, I'm just sorta seeing someone lol..but I digress! I don't really say we're a couple til we both agree on the topic. :jump: yep lol that's what I was getting at

[Kaelynn]

I think it's at the point you both decide to be exclusive, if such a time exists. It's always a bitch when one of us decides and assumes the other feels the same way though ain't it? :hair:

Boy you hit the nail on the head! No matter how many times I tell myself that he and I are not together and he doesn't have to answer to me at all, I still can't help but be jelous when he's with other girls, or tells me about other girls. I also can't help but feel destroyed when I realize that he doesn't want me like I want him. I don't know how I always continue to make the same mistake over and over again. Getting attached to someone is the worst thing in the world...

[rabbit]

(((Kaelynn)))

[flutelady]

I think it begins when you realize you love each other. Denny says it begins when you're emotionally invested in one another (isn't that sort of what I just said?) Denny: Isn't that just like flutelady to re-state my opinion?

[OzKristin]

yea its bad cuz during sex is when we think we wanna be together lol....um yeah and he even went as far as saying he wanted to say the 'L' word, thing is.....we need to decipher between lust and love hun, and right now he and i really are only experiencing lust lol...

[lizzardbits]

i agree with everything said here. Its that moment when you both decided that this relationship is gonna last longer than that first night. The moment you wake up next to that person and realise that you truly love that person.

ummm, Sweetie, i thought we were a couple 6 1/2 months before we got to wake up next to each other. Back when we announced to all of our on-lne friends that we were a couple. Tee hee, just poking at ya, Love!

well... anyhow, Mayhem and i are truely a couple, no matter when the official start time was. We are engaged and planning for our future together and blissfully happy!

Mayhem was my first and last on-line romance, but as for off line and the few b/f i have had, i think that was when we exclusively were seeing each other and friends would say our names as one name when talking about us going somewhere or doing something together. ie."so how are Lizz-n-Mayhem?" "Should we ask Mayhem-n-Lizz over?" ( used Mayhem's name because i don't care to associate my name with any of my ex's names again)