The 'online/offline couple' thread.

[CrouchingBuddha]

I've noticed that a few of our members either are hooked up with another member here in an online relationship, or offline. I've also noticed a few actually went from ONLINE to OFFLINE romance. At least, from what I can tell.

So I wanted to find out about this a bit more thoroughly. I have something of an interest in online relationships, you see. I met my fiance, whom I've now been with for five and a half years, online at a forum (not this one, obviously). We're about as happy as we possibly can be, we never fight, we're very much in love and though we're in a financially tight situation for now, life is good as long as we have each other. I've been told time and time again in the past that online relationships 'can't work'. But I have proof otherwise. Now, I'm just wondering, has this kind of success been felt by a lot of others, or did we just get a lucky fluke?

So yes, indeed! Tell me of your online love lives, whether they be only online, have started online and went offline, or have started offline and now ventured into the realms of cyber space coupling, as it were.

I'm a nosy bastard, what can I say? :p

[Lilith]

I'm having a torrid online affair. We've (http://www.pixies-place.com:81/forums/) been together over 5 years,

[Loulabelle]

Online to real-life relationships 'can't work'?!

Damnit after being together for 4 years, one of them as a married couple and having just brought our son into the world, NOW we're told that the relationship can't work.....all this love and happiness I feel must just be a figment of my imagination then. :P

I met Fussy here and all I can say, is it's been working for us so far....

[sodaklostsoul]

Knew of him online from a friends chat room, met him face to face for his B-day party on friends show, chatted online here at Pixies, met again face to face, decided to date while chatting online, met 2 more times face to face before I moved here to be with him. We've been dating for almost 2 and a half years.

He hasn't asked me to leave so I guess it works.

[WildIrish]

Damnit after being together for 4 years, one of them as a married couple and having just brought our son into the world, NOW we're told that the relationship can't work




I'm sorry we didn't mention it earlier. :roflmao:

[mayhem1978]

Well we met online thanks to a wonderful friend. We chatted for ages before i proposed at stonehenge. She said "yes" and we are due to get married in just over 7 days.

[Aqua]

My sister-in-law met her husband online (not sure where) and they've married about 5-6 years and now have a son.

I think the days of online dating 'not working' are over. Although I suppose it could be a problem if that's all it is... online dating without ever actually meeting. That might be an issue.

[WildIrish]

Aqua and I are a couple.














Of goofballs. :D

[Aqua]

:nod:

[Pita]

I met my Joe online when I was in a very unhappy place in my life. We became really good friends and then I fell in love with him. It took many months to get our lives to a place where we could be together. That day finally came last March on my birthday. We are disgustingly happy and in love! :loveshowe

[Loulabelle]

I think online relationships can lead to better real life ones. You have time to get to know each other's personality...share intimate thoughts and insights before you have the opportunity to make the relationship physical. And if you do venture into the world of long distance sex before you meet up, then you also have the opportunity to discover whether or not you are sexually compatible.

The one thing that online relationships can't anticipate is that magical chemistry that you need to have with someone. I read somewhere that the scent of our potential partners is a huge contributing factor in attraction and that is one of the few things that you can't get to know before meeting someone face to face. That's where luck comes into play, and looking around here I think there are an awful lot of lucky Pixie-people out there.

[Irezumi Kiss]

I think online relationships can lead to better real life ones. You have time to get to know each other's personality...share intimate thoughts and insights before you have the opportunity to make the relationship physical. And if you do venture into the world of long distance sex before you meet up, then you also have the opportunity to discover whether or not you are sexually compatible.

The one thing that online relationships can't anticipate is that magical chemistry that you need to have with someone. I read somewhere that the scent of our potential partners is a huge contributing factor in attraction and that is one of the few things that you can't get to know before meeting someone face to face. That's where luck comes into play, and looking around here I think there are an awful lot of lucky Pixie-people out there.
I feel this way, also. One thing that always was a factor for me, in both my wanting to meet other women and in other women wanting to meet me, during my old AOL chatroom days/nights of yesteryear on up to BBS club postings today, is the "speech."

In some instances it might be elitist or picky, but I cannot wrap my head around a poster who "speaks" in horrible, broken spelling, grammar, ill use of the caps lock, bad or unnecessary slang use, choice of words, etc...to me, it's like a window into the person's brain and I imagine the "voice" speaking those words to me...and if it doesn't feel "sexy," then what's the point, you know?

I try to give my best "smarts" with words in coming across online...and mostly it's paid off with the online-to-reality lovers I've had. When I was starting out I was sometimes on a possible ass hunt and I didn't really gleam for quality during those naughty notions...but now I realize the ones that actually bit were the ones that I had full, literate conversations with, even when we were getting dirty.

That being said...I'm currently in an open, long-distance relationship with a lady I met during my AOL chat days, maybe waaaaaay back in ’98 was when we met online and then a year after that we met in person briefly when she was coming thru here — "briefly" actually meaning we talked for three or four hours before having a quickie — and since then we keep in touch roughly on a daily basis thru the magic of computers and cellular text messaging while connecting physically whenever our ’twains meet.

Oh yeah...all you Pixies peeps ARE lucky! This forum has really deep roots, I'm constantly finding out. I wonder how I would be now if I had come here way back when?

[CrouchingBuddha]

I'm glad to see that so many people have had such positive experiences. It's possible it was because I was so young at the time, but everyone told me it was a bad idea and etc. etc.

From how everyone here is speaking, it sounds like internet hookups and lasting, solid relationships forming frmo online to offline is a common occurance, but I'd have to disagree. Almost any time I tell smoeone I know in real life that I met my fiance, whom I've been with in a solid and loving relationship for 5 years, online, they spend a few minutes giving me this blank, disbelieving stare. Everyone seems very surprised that something like that really happens and can work. I of course don't really give two flying fucks (has anyone else ever thought a flying fuck would be kinda fun? er, sorry) about what others think, but given that general reaction, it piqued my interest that so many of the pixies seem to have hooked up with other pixies.

Then again, everyone gives me that same look when I tell them I'm 20 and my fiance is 25.

And I do live in the back ass part of Georgia.

I think I'm beginning to see a pattern.

[Irezumi Kiss]

Then again, everyone gives me that same look when I tell them I'm 20 and my fiance is 25.

And I do live in the back ass part of Georgia.

I think I'm beginning to see a pattern.
Now, now..."older women" are hot, guy! :loveshowe

[CrouchingBuddha]

Yeah, I happen to think so too.

But people tend to kinda do the math of our ages, and how long we've been together...

and then they kinda freak.

Meh. So I was an over-achiever :rolleyes2

[IowaMan]

I've got absolutely no experience in this area at all but am sort of curious. I've been "lurking" in the background here reading along with things for over 4 years (yeah, I know the joining date is only '04 but it took me a while to get up the guts) and have sort of seen some of the relationships form.

Was there any particular thing that made you decide to go ahead and meet? Was it one of those, "Okay, I'm just gonna do it. I can't stand the suspense anymore," kinds of things? I realize each situation is different but how did you go about getting over the anxiety of finally deciding to meet? I know that the relationships had a chance to develop a bit before ever meeting but wasn't it still like taking a big leap of faith?

Not even sure if what I'm asking makes any sense. :shrug:

I feel really odd even asking given that I'm a nearly 39 year old man and it appears as if I'm asking, "Dad, how will I know when I find that right girl?"

[Lilith]

I have met friends from here in person but I would think it goes along the same principles. If you can make everything work out in your favor, work out the travel, then I think most people who have been honest usually will hook up face to face.