VLM's Question Of The Moment (04/02)

[VeryLonelyMan]

Hey Everyone,
Things are still going well in the first one so I thought I would toss one out for you all. I do want to say thanks for answering, I find sexuality a fascinating subject. And you Pixies hotties and the men who love them all rule just so you know too.

Ladies-How much pain do you like with your pleasure? A slight hair pull or having to sit gently down in a chair after last night.

Men-What are you thoughts on pain and pleasure. Like it, loathe it, live to give or recieve?

[1nutworld]

Personally I'm more into the giving than recieving, but, I'm sure that with the "right" woman, I could recieve more than I give. It's an option that I still want to explore, if possible.

[IowaMan]

Had one pretty nasty incident that sort of took away any pleasure I may get from pain. I don't mind being dominated (actually love it if she really takes the upper hand and tells me exactly what I can and can't do) but I'm not wanting to end the night bruised and bleeding.

[VeryLonelyMan]

Ouch, that sucks.

[ReaperWoman]

I like a little pain with my pleasure... Scratching (but not to draw blood), spanking (but not to bruise) and biting (but not to take away pieces of skin and/or bodyparts in ones mouth).
Same goes for the OH.

[Coaster]

Yeah to all that Reaperwoman said......... all to enhance the pleasure aspects of sex, not deter or demean.......
Especially if you suddenly get the feeling that you are both becoming extremely passionate and animalistic!!!! :hump:

[osuche]

I'm a switch...I like both. But I get bored by men who want me to dominate them *all* the time. Heck, I can just go to work to do that. :D :rofl: (jk)

Sratching, biting, and pain are all good. I want to keep all my appendages, though. I have different levels of pain tolerance depending on my mood, but generally the rougher the better.

[Neige]

I've actually never been with a guy who was willing to inflict pain on me. Lake thinks it's silly for me to want it. I admit I am curious about the milder aspects of pain though...

[dicksbro]

Not a fan of causing or receiving much pain. No problem with a playful pinch, but not something that really hurts someone.

[Loulabelle]

Likewise DB - if it actually causes either party to say 'Ouch' then it's too much. I like the psychological buzz from being dominated occasionally - having my hair pulled (when it was long) or my arse spanked, but to be honest, there are other ways to get that buzz that are just as sexy and don't cause any pain at all. I once had quite a good experience having sex somewhere I shouldn't have been, and in order to keep him quiet, I held my hand over his mouth the whole time - added a kind of edgy twist and a slight menacing quality to the whole experience but no physical pain at all.

[WildIrish]

Oh my...that ^^^ sounds like fun! :D

I'd love a painful encounter. I think it would add a different aspect to lovemaking and it just screams attitude. For it to be done right, one would really have to fully engage in it, and Mrs. WI is just not interested enough in it for it to work. What would be even worse than trying and not liking it, would be to have her do it just to please me and not have her heart in it. It needs to be mutually enticing.

That having been said, a nipple bite or two is ok anytime. :hot:

[Eastern]

Me personally not into the pain thing.An occassionally bite but not blood drawn..ok an old fashioned hickey.. hehe.

[ReaperWoman]

I'm with coaster on the whole "animalistic" aspect of it, it doesn't work unless you're in that heat-of-the-moment place.
And like Lou, I did the whole hand over mouth thing once when the OH was a little too loud, without really thinking anything about it at the time. But afterwards my OH said that it was so unexpected he found it really hot. :hot:

[Loulabelle]

See, I knew you and I were on the same wavelength ReaperWoman!

To add to this, I have been known to dig my nails in to Fussy's back from time to time - sometimes if he reaches that plateau where everything's so intense that he can't quite get tipped over the edge, some well timed nail digging will do it, but shhhhh....don't tell him I said that! :D

[Teddy Bear]

I am new to the 'pain-is-pleasure' way and am finding I like it for the most part. Not quite 100% into it yet. Its hard to explain but the pain intensifies the pleasure somehow.

[Miss-Honey-Bee]

Lately Mr HB & myself have really been getting into pleasure and pain. I love it, both ways! I'm way tougher than I first thought, but the one thing that's too intense for me, is nipple clamps. it's just way too much.