And it's Bama with the rebound!!!!!!

[BamaKyttn]

okay so..... lets talk about rebound relationships....

I went from a 6-7 year relationship with a woman who was 10 years older than me very controlling and didn't allow me friends and in less than a week from leaving her I was swallowing my sorrows among other things with a young man 3 years my junior who had not known a womans attentions previously. I've been accused of faulty thinking based on rebound. I have not been single since I was 15. has my entire dating life been rebound???

any other thoughts?


Kyttn

[Tigerlily78]

It's hard to say....if you learned what you wanted and needed from the first relationship, maybe this one isn't so much of a rebound as a fresh start

[BamaKyttn]

I went from a man 12 years older than me, through 4 or 5 other men one woman and then I broke my only two rules to be with my darling. my rules no one younger than me and no virgins. as of yet I don't regret it. I'm hoping you're right sweetgirl!

[scotzoidman]

Rebound or fresh start, it's always a tough call. As long as you're not transferring negative feelings from the previous bad relationship to the new one, or taking unresolved anger out on the new lover (two sides of the same coin, IMO), it's all good.

Love the one you're with.

[Tigerlily78]

My first major relationship lasted 3 years, and I grew to hate his neediness...this relationship (which is pretty much over, except for selling the house and filing papers) taught me that I need to be with someone who adores me and wants to make me happy (and fulfilled). I'm hoping that those lessons will help me choose better next time, so I vote for fresh starts :)

[Prophet Reality]

Ok... we are all here to learn lessons. As long as you are learning from your relationships then it is all good. Also as long as there is no falsehoods involved in the relationship and each party knows where the other stands then it is all good.

And finally, as long as you are happy with it all then it is good. As long as you are not trying to confirm yourself to another person and allowed to be who you are and when you want to be, I see nothing wrong with it.

My :2cents: worth

[BamaKyttn]

He's one of the most accepting people I've ever been with. I'm not ashamed of my body and other imperfections with him. maybe its because he has nothing else to compare me with other than movies and magazines and he knows that all make believe but it's wonderful, this is the most low-pressure relationship I've ever been blessed with

[scotzoidman]

^^^ the wise man speaks, & his :2cents: worth is well invested, even adjusted for inflation ;)

[Prophet Reality]

Then stick with it as your happy and things are going the way you want them to. Just remember that you are in charge of your life and destiny, no one else.

[Lilith]

He's/The relationship is like a yummy bowl of vanilla ice cream just waiting for you to make him/it into a sundae. You can add any toppings you want. If you don't like it you can scrape it off and pour more fudge on:D

[BamaKyttn]

or add some Kahlua and make a mudslide??

[skyler_m]

I dated a woman for 5 years. When I realized that I couldn't wake up to her every day for the rest of my life, I ended things. I met a woman a few weeks later. We started dating immediately, moved in together in a few months... and will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary next week.

The bad part is that we are on different continents for our 10th. LOL

[PantyFanatic]

We are all exploring in different ways, all our lives. As long as you land in a new place naked, (without baggage) you may be able to explore together for a long time. :thumb:

[BamaKyttn]

I realize that I come with lots of baggage lol hell two of my ex boyfriends are (now) pixies!

Welcome Ditch420!


but I also realize that none of that is Lord Snows' problem or his fault. there are times I flinch there are times I panic and can't breathe but thankfully he's patient and kind and knows I'm damaged.

Ditch and Souls both know how little I value myself as does LS and some of my other darling pixies who've had the misfortune to stumble upon me during a dark time. it's evident in my first posts to Pixies lo those many years ago. I'm very thankful for my pixie family. and I love each and every one of you for the support you give one another and me.


Kyttn

[Scarecrow]

I realize that I come with lots of baggage lol hell two of my ex boyfriends are (now) pixies!

Welcome Ditch420!


but I also realize that none of that is Lord Snows' problem or his fault. there are times I flinch there are times I panic and can't breathe but thankfully he's patient and kind and knows I'm damaged.

Ditch and Souls both know how little I value myself as does LS and some of my other darling pixies who've had the misfortune to stumble upon me during a dark time. it's evident in my first posts to Pixies lo those many years ago. I'm very thankful for my pixie family. and I love each and every one of you for the support you give one another and me.


Kyttn


You know we are glad to be here for you, just don't corrupt that young fellow any more than he needs. :thumbs:

[BamaKyttn]

I think the poor boy is beyond saving now. that was part of the why behind my no virgins rule. I keep telling him "most girls dont do this.... most girls need foreplay.... many don't swallow..... etc" giggle

[Tigerlily78]

It's important for him to know that not every girl is the same, though :)

[BamaKyttn]

He is outstanding and well educated in many things female. he was less embarrassed than I in the feminine aisle. God his mother did wonderful things for this young man. I actually e-mailed her and told her she raised a wonderful young man giggle you shoulda seen the look on his dads face on that one

[Lord Snow]

Unfortunately you give me way too much credit on a lot of things. Most of the time I bury what I don't want to show. In a way we're both damaged. For the record, I was corrupted long before we got together, just a little less than now. Yes, I blame my mother for most of what I know about women. She started teaching me young about certain things, like that wonderful time of month where all they want is chocolate, etc.

[Lilith]

You know we are glad to be here for you, just don't corrupt that young fellow any more than he needs. :thumbs:

Right! That's my job :hot:

[Prophet Reality]

Well Lil you coorupt LS and I will corrupt Bama then.......

:licker: :horny: :weg:

[Lord Snow]

Wouldn't it be more correct in assuming that Bama and I corrupt each other? I'm sure Lil wouldn't mind being corrupted by you though Prophet.

[Lilith]

HA HA. You can not corrupt the corruptor :D

[Lord Snow]

You have a point. It's on the top of your head, but you do have one. J/K.

[BamaKyttn]

You know I think that I'm spoiling him more than corrupting him..... what would you have done if your first had been as ......sexually >ahem< Liberated as to delight in having her mouth fucked and taking your cock deep into her throat loving the feel of your cock cumming in her mouth and swallowing every drop as she sucked you dry? or licked and sucked her own contributions off your cock and balls? or had loud, unabashed trembling unable to walk orgasms with your cock buried ballsdeep in her tight ass? not to mention that neither my ass or pussy had been used for penetration in 7 years because my g/f wasn't into penetration helps keep everything tight for certain. or begged you to let her jerk your cock while she buries her own fingers in her pussy and toys with her clit until she moans in orgasm while you watch and then asked you to cum on her tits? I mean come on I think the poor boy is spoiled, I hope he'll have higher standards for his next relationship.



Kyttn

[PantyFanatic]

:faint:


I think he's spoiled too. :banghead:










......... I know because I haven't been spoiled like that in quite a while. :boink:

[Lord Snow]

I've been spoiled my whole life. Perks of being an only child. Why should it stop now? I realize that not every girl is as open minded, but right now I'm not looking to find someone else. I'm quite happy being spoiled by the beautiful Bama. Besides, she has a lot to teach, and hopefully I've been as good a student to her as she's been a teacher to me.

[Prophet Reality]

Wouldn't it be more correct in assuming that Bama and I corrupt each other? I'm sure Lil wouldn't mind being corrupted by you though Prophet.

HA HA. You can not corrupt the corruptor

I tried that path a long time ago and realized that anything I could possible corrupt Lilth with, she would turn against me. So we have the mutual corruption respect and my ever increasing naughty dreams of her.....

[Lord Snow]

That's so sweet. In a perverted pixie kind of way.

[BamaKyttn]

smacks lord snows ass. shouldn't you be in bed?

[Lord Snow]

Why? I don't have work in the morning, and it's not like you're here right now. If you were in my bed, I would definitely be in it.

[BamaKyttn]

silly boy

[Navarre]

HA HA. You can not corrupt the corruptor :D


I'll bet I could.




I know I could. :nod:

[Lilith]

Just remember, turn about is fair play. And I always play fair. ;)

[BamaKyttn]

turn about is fair play, but! if you turn around, it's foreplay!!!!

[Aqua]

turn about is fair play, but! if you turn around, it's foreplay!!!!
Mmmmm, buttttttt... :D

[PantyFanatic]

Just remember, turn about is fair play. And I always play fair. ;)
She plays the fairs, all the burlesque houses on the circuit and the local table dancing bars. :undies:






:doorpeek:

[gekkogecko]

She plays the fairs, all the burlesque houses on the circuit and the local table dancing bars. :undies:


Hey, the local county fair opens here in a week and a day...

[BamaKyttn]

I don't believe in "the one" I'm a skeptic. forever doesn't last as long as it used to
I believed in it a long time ago..... but the glass was smaller then easier to fill; now it's less than half full there are days I don't know whats wrong with me. Like spending time with Lord Snow..... I see him every other weekend, lately I have had a hard time leaving dry-eyed for my 120 mile drive home can't sleep sunday night think about him all day monday by weds. I'm usually starting to wonder if I should go back and see him again or if I should just break up with him because I'm afraid he's making a mistake in settling for me at this point in his life, no matter for how long. Thinking about trying to convince him to find a girl closer to his own age and closer to him so they can actually date without him having to go home and sleep with her. I know I'm not healthy and he shouldn't start with someone as damaged as I am. When I feel like I'm starting to care too much my first instinct is to bolt, or press my partner to. By the time I have my next 3 day weekend ( every other) I'll be craving his touch so bad it's almost physically painful but it seems like I'm numb between times.

Although my addiction might have helped with that I buried my discontent with my previous relationship in becoming a pill popper any painkiller or muscle relaxer my mom the sickly one had lots of pretty pills including her Ultram (tramadol) .... taking more than 16 50 mg tabs of Ultram every day lets ya feel almost nothing..... I'm on my 6th night/day without them.the migraines have almost passed. the sad thing is that I'm crashing at my folks' place so it's not like I can throw the pills out so I face the temptation every time I walk past the kitchen....sigh. damaged.

[gekkogecko]

I know I'm not healthy and he shouldn't start with someone as damaged as I am.


He's an adult, and should "start" with someone he thinks is worthwhile spending time with. Maybe that really is you. Hey, it's his decision to make, preferably with your input.

the sad thing is that I'm crashing at my folks' place so it's not like I can throw the pills out so I face the temptation every time I walk past the kitchen.

Maybe put them in a lock box and give the keys to your folks? Would that help?

[BamaKyttn]

smile. he says it was his choice just as it was my choice to be with him...... I just hate for him to make a choice he'll regret, even wasting 2 or 3 months is too much if he's not happy. I'm just glad that I feel he is open and honest with me.



as far as locking them up......I'm trying to get away with this and only admit it to the family I like. She hasn't noticed or atleast hasn't said anything and I don't want to admit it to her because I'm pretty sure after being on them for more than 10 years shes addicted to them too. I don't see how she could take them for so long and not be.

[PantyFanatic]

You already have the upper hand in so much as you recognize, admit and are dealing with something you know is messing with your mind and emotions. That said, you know any major decisions now are not going to be true or accurate. The issues you are dealing with is an important one that deals with not only your future, but someone else's too. Therefore it has to be right.

You first will have to devote all your attention to dealing with the chemicals that are stifling your judgment. If he is what you believe him to be and what you want, he'll stand by and be there when you both can deal with undistorted facts and the contradicting emotions that make up humans.

That's a big enough challenge in itself. :rofl: I am well aware plotting logic is very different than applying it, but it does give you a direction. :shrug:



:2cents:

[Prophet Reality]

I can agree with you on some of this PF. But I don't think the drugs are really a factor in Bama choosing who she spends her time with. I think that there maybe more issues at play here, some that we don't know about. And since I don't know all the details of how they meet and such I can only comment on what I do know.

I do agree that fighting the urge to take the pills is a big struggle and everyday that you don't is another victory. So I give you a big :molest: hug and my support in getting off the pills.

[scotzoidman]

I am well aware plotting logic is very different than applying it, but it does give you a direction. :shrug:



:2cents:
Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans - John Lennon

[Oldfart]

Kyttn,

If you start trying to make Lord Snow's decisions for him, you risk driving him away.

I'm no expert, but the two of you seem fine, even if just for the present. Live for now.

Damaged goods? We all carry a few dents and scrapes, it's called a personality. Don't sweat it.

[scotzoidman]

I know I'm not healthy and he shouldn't start with someone as damaged as I am.

...sigh. damaged.
You do understand that we, as humans, eventually heal? Maybe not back to "like New" condition, but we all get better as time (& yourself) allows...

Perhaps you will break his heart someday. To hell with "perhaps", you will. It's part of the learning curve. Just don't break your own spirit out of fear that you will hurt somebody.

LS seems to be enjoying the ride, you should enjoy it with him. So you've made mistakes, everybody does; the worst mistake you could make is to let the hurts of the past keep you from enjoying the present.

(BTW, I'm better at giving advice than at taking my own :( )

[gekkogecko]

LS seems to be enjoying the ride

Well, since that seems to involve riding BamaKyttn, can you blame him?

[jseal]

... So you've made mistakes, everybody does; the worst mistake you could make is to let the hurts of the past keep you from enjoying the present ...
Hear hear!

[BamaKyttn]

thank you everyone for your support both public and private.

I'm still winning, no ultrams.

Along with the support of LS I realized that the reason I was taking the pills is I am a constant worrier, always stressed about something. I used them in the same way I used Marijuana at one point just to put me in a place where I don't worry. interestingly enough I found myself relaxing over the ritual of taking out the drug, pulling stems and seeds and generally breaking it up. by the time I was packing the bowl I didn't need to smoke. but that took a fairly long time to reach the point that the ritual was as calming as the act. And the really sad part is when I quit smoking it all together, I didn't once go..... god I need weed. I felt no physical or mental cravings, myself. shrug. I know I'm horrid.

[scotzoidman]

thank you everyone for your support both public and private.
.. I used Marijuana at one point just to put me in a place where I don't worry. interestingly enough I found myself relaxing over the ritual of taking out the drug, pulling stems and seeds and generally breaking it up. by the time I was packing the bowl I didn't need to smoke. but that took a fairly long time to reach the point that the ritual was as calming as the act. And the really sad part is when I quit smoking it all together, I didn't once go..... god I need weed. I felt no physical or mental cravings, myself. shrug. I know I'm horrid.
The best part was when we had a Doobie Bros album cover to clean our dope. Now no one makes album covers anymore...& a CD jewel case just isn't the same (too much static).

[BamaKyttn]

what you don't think I have the White Album thats older than me???? unfortunately my copy of Jesus Christ Superstar in the original cover is with my turn table at the ex g/fs house....I gotta get that. that turn table cover was holdin ice and or hunch punch ( aka pink panty dropper according to my father) about 10 years before I was even thought about