Guys I'm curious about blow-jobs.....

[Sweet Chastity]

I've wondered but never had a place to ask before, about the difference between intercourse (vaginal) and blow-jobs.

Porns and stories make blow-jobs seem like a big deal so I'm curious why that is. Do they feel better than intercourse? I mean, I would think that a pussy would be softer and more pleasurable. I also think the roof of a mouth is kind of hard and not to mention teeth, so I was wondering if maybe it's the allure of the blow-job. Is it the thrill of having a woman down on her knees?

Or some women don't like to give blow-jobs, so maybe some guys really like bjs cuz previous lovers never wanted to give them.

My technique is to give a long, slow, deliberate bj. I start licking the balls and that little spot between the balls and anus then slowly work my way up the shaft teasing the head before I take it in my mouth. I go slow and start working up faster and faster.

Is this too detailed for this forum? I am rather new but it seems like the kind of place that would let me speak my mind.

I was an RPN (Nursing Assistant), so I'm not shy about much anymore.

Guys?

Sweet Chastity

[Bilbo]

BJ's can be a build up to greater sensitivity for intercourse, the action of the tongue on the head of the penis can be overwelming with a partner to eger to have you reach orgasm, while someone who enjoys giving BJ's can take a male to the extreme heights of sensitivity without making them cum, this is where the senistivity during intercourse gives heightened feeling , and thus adds to the pleasure, hopefully for all involved.

As to BJ's being better than intercourse, this would again greatly depend upon the techniques used in both acts of lovemaking.

If you wish I would gladly volunteer to assess YOUR techniques:D

[Irish]

Sweet Chastity---It makes alot of difference as to whether; the
woman;really enjoys what she is doing.I had one; coworker-
woman;who was married but took immense pride in her ability to
make men respect the way she used her mouth.I had another
woman;who;did it mainly because;she thought;it was her duty.
You could tell that she;really;didn't enjoy doing it.Therefore it was
not enjoyable to me.I think whether;one;is better then the other;
depends;entirely upon if it is enjoyable to both parties! Irish

[nutworld]

-----> is taking the next # after Bilbo

:)


Sweet Chastity,

I hope you didnt mind that comment.

I enjoy a good bj..but it doesn't form an adequate replacemet for intercourse. It is very useful for foreplay.

Of course when you are being impulsive..a bj is much easier than trying to get a quickie in.

[BIFF]

Don't worry about too much detail! Your technique worked quite well and I was only reading it!

I think it is difficult to compare the two.

Oral sex and be much more detailed and specific. A wonderful mouth, tongue, and hands used together can provide a sensational feeling.

Have you ever had the pleasure of receiving oral sex from your partner or a stranger on the street??? Remember the feeling of their tongue as it first began to slide between your lips and the feeling when the tip just grazed over your clit? Or when one finger slips inside you as your partner nibbles intently on your clit.

Hope that helps ;)

[Diver Down]

"I also think the roof of a mouth is kind of hard and not to mention teeth"


There is generally more sensation with a blow job than with intercourse. I actually prefer it when Mrs.D uses some teeth. Everybodies heard the old saying "make it hurt so good".

[Sweet Chastity]

Thanks for the replies. No Nutworld, I don't mind the comment.

I actually do enjoy blow-jobs. I had a guy take me through that technique which works best with a guy sitting just at the edge of the bed leaning back on his elbows so he can watch. I like seeing how much fun my partner is having. It's nice having a guy's input rather than just grunts and groans.

If I spend the night I like to wake up a guy with a blow-job. It usually produces the best cuddles afterwards! I've also given a blow-job on the highway (I wasn't driving). They can be nice easy quickies. Plus I like targeting sensitive areas of his tool with my tongue. :)

I actually prefer a 69er to just recieving oral sex. Call me wierd.

Sweet Chastity

[nutworld]

imagines waking up to a bj....

HMMMMMMMMMM yess!!!


:D

I'd love to wake up to that anyday!

While 69 isnt my favorite I dont object to it.. I just prefer being able to concentrate all my efforts into giving my partner pleasure..letting them get satisfied before getting my own. But thats just the way I prefer.

[Irish]

nutworld---During one of my; marital-spats;when I wasn't living
at home;I was staying with a buddies exwife(OKd;first;with him)
and she used to wake me; every morning;with a BJ!Beats the hell
out of an alarm clock!Makes you look forward to waking up for
work!Thought you would enjoy thinking about that. Irish
P.S.I just unsubscribed from this thread by mistake!Hope that I
can correct it!

[nutworld]

Irish,
Oh yeah you bet I'd like that.


I don't get any morning sex, as thats not anything that my wife is into.

I had an ex that spoiled me I guess. She absolutly loved giving bj's, and her technique was quite invigorating!! Anytime, almost anyplace....and of course I wouldnt ever say no!

I'm not too much into the teeth action though that Diver seems to prefer. Either I'm way too sensitive, or when its been done to me it was not done correctly.

hmmmm yet another thing to ponder.

[Irish]

nutworld---I'm writing this secretly!Even if we were separated at
the time;my wife would be pissed if she knew about it.women
must be related to elephants because neither ever forgets;even
though it was ;years ;ago.I just wanted to tell you that it's even
more enjoyable when it is done by suprise! Irish
P.S.I can understand it.I would be"Pissed Off"if some other guy
had eaten her.When the shoe is on the other foot;somehow;it;
doesn't bother you as much!

[Nubian]

It's hard to quantify the difference. I guess oral is more acute...more intense. Personally, If I had to choose, I would tend to lean a bit more toward intercourse. While the feeling is not as intense as a bj, it's no less desireable. And, there's this feeling of warm, moistness, and (dare I say) comfort along the entire length of my penis that I experience with intercourse. Plus, the knowledge that I'm inside my loved one and we are joined as one is just mind-blowing (no pun intended).

[pje]

Damn there are so many answers for this question.It all depends on the mood,where you guys are at,how long its been,how your feeling at the time as well as her.Some places are just so perfect to recieve blowjobs such as movie theaters,rides,driving a car,and many other places

[buddy]

i think that a pussy is more enjoyable and anal is absolute heaven. The Bj's were always for quickies in the car . I prefer to have a slow and comfortable screw

[Prophet Reality]

I myself have not been with too many women that are into givng a BJ to their man. They would want me to go down on them, but never return the favor.

So I think that because of that when I do get a BJ, especially from someone that knows what they are doing, is even better. And as for your technique, it sounds good to me. And waking up to a BJ would be pure heaven to me.

[motega20]

For me the difference is more emotional than physical... although there are elements of both. At the risk of embarrasing RedHertz I just have to say that she Has the best mouth in the world. I mean there is nothing better sexually. To note some instances... She has made me pass out on several occasions because it was so incredible, I generally have 2 and sometimes 3 orgasms while she is going down on me (yes it is possible for guys to have multiple orgasms) and I being a screamer when I have been able to scream I have blown out my voice for two days. One of the reasons that she is so good is because she loves it. Just as much as I love going down on her I think if not more (69's are VERY ncie for us). Sex is jsut a whole different experience. I mean they are really not similar at all for us, just different not better or worse. I love both :D

[Sweet Chastity]

A guy helped me develop my favorite method of giving a blow-job but I really would like to have other systems to add variety. My friend told me a general rule is to go slow and work a guy up to his orgasm. But I'd love to have other methods to use too!

I've heard that humming during a blow-job is supposed to be very stimulating. I've read about ice, swallowing, and using teeth gently, are there other methods ppl could pass along? I usually like to provide a hand job at the same time (since I can't deep throat yet, but now have a few avenues to look at, I'd really love to be able to!) and I like to play with a guy's balls when I give head but I'd love to have a variety of tricks up my sleave :)

Has anyone tried any lotions? I've seen some in the Stag shop where they create heat and am wondering if that's any fun.

RedHertz throw a girl a bone here! Drop us a few hints! I'd love to get a guy to have multiple orgasms! Anyone else with advice?! I would love to blow a guy's mind! (not that my method doesn't do that, I just get bored and want to have new ways to eat, variety is the spice of life and I like my food spicy!)

Sweet Chastity

[don73153]

Come on girl, I think you know what you were starting with this thread, and all the guys fell right in to it!! LOL

Your technique sounds quite fine, and it is a VERY sexy subject to be talking about. I, for one, find that my woman got turned on more, as did I, when she lay on her back, head over the edge of the bed, and I positioned myself to fuck her mouth. With care as to the ability of your partner, this was the position that had the most intense orgasms for us both. She loved being a bad girl, and this position was the nastiest for her. But that is what she was looking for! LOL Same feelings for me, I love a bad girl, and the orgasm was one of the best I've ever had! I think I ripped her tonsils out I shot my cum so hard! LOLWhich is another thing about it, swallowing the cum. She told me she had never done that in 26 years of marriage, and that I was her first, and just knowing this put me completely over the edge!! Wow!!

Well, enough for now, that made me hard again, want to come over and practice? ;)

Don

[Sweet Chastity]

Actually I was originally curious to know the difference physically and mentally, but then it got me going off in different directions and got me curious about other things!

I feel I've got a great technique but it would be boring if all my blow-jobs were the same. I want to develop other methods and use them where they are best suited! For instance, my method would be difficult on my knees in the shower. So I want all my blow-jobs to be awesome! I love giving pleasure to someone I really like and especially one I care deeply for. So I thought I might pick up some pointers here. :)


Thanks for the story!
Sweet Chastity

[scotzoidman]

I feel I've got a great technique but it would be boring if all my blow-jobs were the same.
Y'know, "boring" & "blow-jobs" are two words I seldom use in the same sentence...

[RedHertz]

In fact posting just after a fab roll in the hay, I have to say I love giving! it is too fun. I would have to say variety is the spice of life, as far as oral sex ( or any sex) goes. I love all sorts of techniques. I love to wrap my lips around the head and stroke the shaft, ring my tounge around the shaft as I move it up and down. Massage, lick, love the balls. lick from the base to tip along the seam. Flick the head with the tip of my tounge. push my head down all the way to the throat (slight advantage here for girls with no gag reflex) very quickly then pull out slowly. lub up the shaft as my hand strokes, directly followed by the mouth. Don't be afraid of the ass....... mix it up with the cleavage, and mouth. I love it love it love it.......

The double, passing out, what can I say..... get in tune with your man.... love him.... TEASE him...... use variety to get him close then change up. make it just as much of an event at your love making. feel sexy. that would be the best clue I can give. oh, and wrap your lips around the teeth, to apply more pressure, in a gentle way.

have fun!

[Irish]

scotzoidman---I don't think that ;I ever;used those two words
;together;when refering to a "BJ" either.Perhaps;excellent&not
as good;but;never bad.I've always said that;there is;no such
thing as a bad "BJ";some are just better than others! Irish

[keith121]

listern you`ve heard a lot of shit here
men like bj because it means no effort and theres nothing better
than a girl with a cock in her mouth
i`m sorry but this is the truth
at the end of the day you look good with cum on your face
......sorry but you live and learn!!!!!!1

[Wayne]

SC,

the alure of a BJ is - lips and tongue and teath and cheeks and throat and ...

it can drive a guy nut-nut but it is not a replacement for intercorse. Vaginal sex is great - the ole cliche - the worse one i ever had was damn good. Variation is everything - and what a way to change pace! I love waking to BJ's and it can make the love making exp[eriance last much, much longer (as long as that does not abrade the mucuse membranes).

[Lovediva]

Originally posted by keith121
listern you`ve heard a lot of shit here
men like bj because it means no effort and theres nothing better
than a girl with a cock in her mouth
i`m sorry but this is the truth
at the end of the day you look good with cum on your face
......sorry but you live and learn!!!!!!1



Looks like you STILL have alot of learning to do!! :D ;)

[PantyFanatic]

...welcome sonny........ step over here. We need to talk.....

[Sweet Chastity]

Originally posted by keith121
listern you`ve heard a lot of shit here
men like bj because it means no effort and theres nothing better
than a girl with a cock in her mouth
i`m sorry but this is the truth
at the end of the day you look good with cum on your face
......sorry but you live and learn!!!!!!1

You know, I kinda thought that until I posted here. Now I think differently.

Thanks guys and gals!
Sweet Chastity

[PantyFanatic]

It’s Christmas Eve, everyone is busy, no one’s paying attention, so I wanted to mention to you…
I’m truly sorry you never had this talk with your Dad.:o

This is a group of sexy ADULTS who give and receive one of life’s greatest pleasures by..…giving and receiving one of life’s greatest pleasures!:D
That’s the way it works. Now if you’re not ready, or can’t handle that,…. it’s OK. We understand and don’t hold it against you.:)

You’re welcome to read around and learn:) ,..... or go somewhere you’re more at home.;) I only say, please don’t mess with the members of our family:( ,….. ESPECIALLY… OUR… WOMAN! :mad: (we call it respect) OR I”LL DROPE YOU WHERE YOU FUCKING STAND!
(sorry. I’m old,…that’s the way I think………AND I MEAN IT!) .:)

Merry Christmas to ya:)

[Irish]

pantyfanatic---Well said.Happy Holidays!! Irish

[sad_sam]

AMEN !!!!

[don73153]

Well said! Well said! And Keith121, just remember, at the end of the day, 'It's ALL good!'

Merry Christmas to ALL!! :)

And for you, LoveDiva, I saw your new pics, what a rush! :) I love the clit, and I believe I could light you up, no electricity needed! ;)

And for SweetChastity, yes, baby. Those heat lotions(I had a cream) are fantastic! Taste like mint, makes a mild heat, and Oh! So! Good!! I put some on my lover's clit during intercourse and massaged it with my thumb and it drove her nuts!! Afterward, she sucked the cream AND my cream off my cock and said it was the best taste ever! I have to agree, her pussy was delicious with it on there, as if it weren't already!! ;)

As you've probably heard before, Try it! You'll LIKE it!! :)

Don

[Sweet Chastity]

Merry Christmas guys and gals!

Thanks don73153, I will definitely have to make a trip to the local adult store and break out the debit card. I was there a week or two ago looking at the toys, since I've worked a bit more hours over the holidays and will be getting a nice cheque on the 27th. I will have to look for some of that cream.

Well said Pantyfanatic! I am an adult who believes in treating others with respect or at the very least courtesy. And I don't know about the other ladies here but I love gentlemen. I don't need a guy grabbing every door and all that, but I like him to treat me like a lady.

Have a great day!
Sweet Chastity

[Prophet Reality]

Keith my boy, if you don't get the lesson learned from Pantyfanatic, then this Knight in Shiny Black armor will have no problems getting medeval on your ass.

And Chastity, can't wait to hear of your experience with the cream qand possible new toy.

With much respect and a long sword to back it up.


Happy X-mas to all and to all a good day!!!

[rednek]

Sad sam says it like it is I think keiths mind has reached its limit
happy holidays
Red

[Lovediva]

I just want to say THANK YOU to you GUYS for once again proving that we are family here.

This kinda feedback is what keeps me coming back here....
and for this I thank you all......

[rabbit]

Sorry I'm late to this thread. To me, there is NOTHING better than intercourse. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE a good BJ. But the sensation, the wonderful feeling, of slowly and surely burying my fat cock into a waiting pussy is absolutely beyond all doubt the BEST. I enjoy bringing a woman to climax in this fashion the most.

..and it ain't too bad for me, either! ;)

rabbit

[sixsense]

You know because that stereotype Keith mentioned existed in my head, when the time came I wouldn't let her as I thought it would be deemening. I can see now its all right. But whatever happens it is the womans decision.

I like Sweet Chastity thank you for this eye opening thread.

[Prophet Reality]

Well, Diva Thank you ! IF it wasn't for ladies like the ones here, I would be out of business as the Knight in Shining Black Armor.

[Boogieman]

Blow jobs and intercourse are totally different to a man both physically and psychologically. With a BJ, a man feels dominated. There's nothing like a man watching a beautiful woman take a penies into her mouth..it's very erotic, because there's so much more that can be done with the mouth. Also, the mouth can tend to the very sensitive parts of a penis the vagina cannot. Remember, just because you get a man to cum, doesn't mean it was a "good" blow job.

[Sweet Chastity]

Thanks guys and gals!

Now a lot of people mention the 'sensitive' spots on the penis but no one has elaborated yet. Anyone care to mention any areas my tongue should pay particular attention to?

I know about that lovely little spot just under the scrotum just before the anus. I think just around the edge of the head and just below the hole are also sensitive spots. I'm sure the whole penis is sensitive and I assume the head is more sensitive than the shaft but not many men have written me a road map yet. So I just want to know what areas I should test with my tongue, cuz I know each guy is different, but I should be able to tell by his response.

Thanks!
Sweet Chastity

[scotzoidman]

Chas, I think you know more than you give yourself credit for, you've located the two most sensitive spots, without a road map! ;) You can also turn a guy on by gently licking and mouthing his balls, (of course you know no rough stuff here, but part of the thrill is he knows he's vunerable now). If you can keep stroking the shaft while sucking his balls, you'll drive him up the wall!
I don't know as I would say I feel dominated during a BJ, it does put men in a more passive role, where most other sex acts tend to make the woman the passive one (I know, that's a broad generalzation, work with me folks!) I also have a problem with this statement:Remember, just because you get a man to cum, doesn't mean it was a "good" blow job. To me, that implies that there might be a "bad" BJ... AIN'T NO SUCH THING... as they say, the worst I ever had was REAL good, it just didn't last long enough! And if I came, it was a GREAT BJ!
One last tip, Chas, if you want to guage your man's response, maintain some kind of contact (eye or physical) with his feet, when his toes curl, you've hit paydirt!

[Irish]

Sweet Chastity---That "sensitive" spot that you're refering to;between the asshole&scrotum;is called the"taint."It got its name;because;it taint his asshole&it taint his scrotum.Sorry;
couldn't resist.That is an "old joke."Male oriented.It; immediatly;
popped into my mind when I read your thread.I realise that you're
serious!You know me and my"wise-ass"remarks. Irish

[Sweet Chastity]

LOL!

God I love this forum! Mostly because everyone here is so great and helpful!

Maybe I'm just anxious cuz of my new love interest, so I'm thinking a lot about what I'd love to do for him but I'm not at that stage yet! I can't wait!

Thanks again guys!

Sweet Chastity

[justLindy]

Hi all

I was reading back and you were enquiring about lotions etc, any way I was took my partner with a mouthful of creme de meth (you know that green liquor). He said the coolling effects of the alcohol and the heat from the methol combined with a BJ was amazing.
Just a hint from experience don't use port it just burns

Have a good New Year

[luv2please]

Hey Don,
Do you have the name of that cream? I think my wife would love it. (I mean the heat lotion)LOL. BTW when I read the male responses to Keith I decided that this was definately a great place. :)

[Irish]

luv2please---Allow me to welcome you even more.Your view on
the male responces;show that you are the kind of person that
belongs here! Irish
P.S.My opinion.Different strokes for different folks!!I have 2 daughters so I am very sensitive to the way that women are
treated.

[Lilith]

Did someone mention Altoids? I had trouble getting started in this particular area but I heard that if you gave a BJ with an ALtoid in your mouth it served 2 puposes. Fresh breath and the cooling effect like justLindy mentioned with the creme de menthe. I have always preferred the cinnamon Altoids and my hubby says it gets really hot!!!!!!! I heard a comedian once say,"It's a BJ for God's sake no improvement is necessary"! True or not, experimentation is always a good thing! Tootles!

[dicksbro]

** BUMP **

Another thread from before my time at Pixies. Still, it was a good question from Sweet Chastity. Both intercourse and oral sex are wonderful ... and, I think can be for both parties. Which is better? I'm not sure either is really better. I think a couple of the turn-ons for men is being able to see the acceptance that I woman shows when she is willing to accept her man orally ... and the other is the flexibility of the tongue to tease and excite the penis is a variety of ways. The main thing, I believe for me anyway is to feel like my wife is enjoying what she is doing and realizes how much her caring means to me. Feeling truly loved is probably the greatest sensation of all almost regardless of the physical activities.

[Teddy Bear]

** BUMP **

Feeling truly loved is probably the greatest sensation of all almost regardless of the physical activities.

Thanks db. That's so true!

[Wildeye]

Thats a hot thread.

Depends sometimes I like coming by being sucked off, but only if she is ok with that. I will always go down on her, either at the same time or after or before.

Something very sensitive and intimate about a woman sucking your cock. Your technique sounds great.

Other times its foreplay and gets my cock so hard and ready to fuck.

W

[BlindTurtle]

The way OP describes bj's is delicious. If I had to choose, I would go with intercourse, cause I love hearing her 'sing', but I don't mind a good old blowey at all.