Help ...............

[quisath]

I finally Met with Someone I have had an online relationship with. (7 years) I am head over heels in Love with this Lady now. I haven't let her know and I'm sure she's feeling the same way. (we had a Fantastic time together) ...............How should this proceed. We live 80 miles away from one another. I'm just so confused. Help a Cowboy out and give me some advice.

[legend]

get in you car and drive up there today.....take some flowers, or whatever, surprise her.....get down on one knee and tell her how u feel


hmmm, am i being idealistic here?

[RandyGal]

You're only 80 MILES AWAY from her????

You LUCKY bastard!

After 7 years I would proceed as quickly as I could to see her and be with her.

Good luck and best wishes. :)

[sweetc0rn]

Yeah... like what Legend say. Just go and tell her how u feel about her. 80 miles aren't that far right? As long as both of you like each other, distance is't a big problem

Good luck to you too :)

[Radies]

Just do it man....80 miles is nothing...try 2000 miles :(

[dice45]

quisath,

you are still here in front of your computer, posting? not yet sitting in a car and driving to her? Wasting time?
C'mon, 80 miles, that's almost living next door to, (was her name Alice!? :) )

Run, tell her how you feel! Hurry up, ready, steady, go!!

Oh how badly do i wish this would happen to me!

[Lovediva]

Quistah...I agree with the others!! If you love her like you say you do...don't pass up this chance at happiness!!

[Lilith]

GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[Murphy]

I can't add much to what the others have said, except:
If 80 miles is a big thing, find someplace midway between you and set up another meeting. Bring flowers and be ready to tell her EXACTLY how you feel...but above all...
GO TO HER AND TELL HER...DON'T WASTE TIME....DON'T HIDE BEHIND YOU 'PUTER... GO GET HER! Otherwise you'll be kicing yourself in the butt for the rest of your life!

[scorpi42]

i agree with all of the above go ASAP and have fun

[Scarecrow]

Are you still here goooooooooo

[quisath]

We're talking more and I plan to pursue with much enthusiasm.................. Thanks Everyone. Love you Guys/Gals

[Sugarsprinkles]

You will keep us posted on how things progress, won't you?
You know we'll all be dying to know how everything goes.

Good Luck!! I wish you all the best!!

[quisath]

Well Sugar................we are both in Love with one another and I will be going this weekend to be with her for a few Days. She explained to me that .....she knew me from the Inside first and that once she knew my Outside it was all over ..............she was hooked and I know it's the same for me. Seven years of sharing ideas, heartbreaks and tragedies, telling each other things we would never tell another. I am just so excited about the Possibilities. I will keep you all posted as you are somewhat my Extended family. Love You All.

[Grumble]

The very best to you Q and your lovely lady. I am a bit of a sentimental twit but hey I love hearing that two people have found each other.
It has made my day and to know there is a little bit more happiness around beats the shit out of hearing some Palestian has blow up another 12 Israeli's or that the Israeli Army has shot another 5 Palestians and the Paki's & India are on the brink of nuclear war.

(putting soap box away) Good on ya mate

[quisath]

Quess what Gang?.......................I'm moving to Austin on the 4th of July weekend. I even found a job there.......................so wish me Luck and keep your fingers crossed.

[Scarecrow]

Glad to hear i may work out for the two of you, wishing you two the best of luck and a long life together.

[quisath]

I just want you all to that it didn't work out................we both had some differences we couldn't work out. I blame myself mostly. I thought you should know. Sometimes I guess the timing is Bad. She wants to remain friends but I am hesitant since she gave me ultimatums. What do you guys/gals think? I realy feel bad about this so take it easy on me.

James

[Lilith]

Friends don't come with ultimatums......you have to do what is best for you......

the Drs. say a quick clean break heals the fastest with the least scars:p

((hugs))

[scotzoidman]

I'm with Lil on this one...getting a mixed message here, you mostly blame yourself but she issued ultimatums...guess that's the Gentleman Cowboy coming out ;) oh well, sorry it didn't work out, but better to move along than to force the issue when the time is wrong...

[RandyGal]

Hey, you never would have known unless you tried....and I say good for you for trying.

I wouldn't blame myself if I were you. It takes TWO to make OR break a relationship.

I don't believe in the "one true love" thing and there'll be someone out there yet who fits YOU just fine, and who won't give you ultimatums.

Better luck next time and an extra *hug* from me...a breakup is never a fun thing to go thru.

[RandyGal]

p.s. are you gonna stay in Austin or is there a move planned? i know you've only been there a short time.....how's that part of your life going?

[Sugarsprinkles]

I'm with RandyGal on this...at least you tried. Now you won't always be asking yourself "What if........?" You can rest easier knowing you gave it your best shot. Agree with Lilith too, that a clean break is best...it's certainly faster to recover from than a long drawn out mess.

Best of luck in whatever you choose next!

[dicksbro]

Quisath, very sorry to hear that things didn't work out. We'll sure be thinking of you. Please, take care of yourself.

[Reesa]

I'm so sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you, but if you wouldn't have tried, you would never have known. I went through the same thing last year. Sometimes the fantasy and intimacy we develop online is just too hard to replicate in person. Reality bites.

[GermanSteve]

I agree with Lilith, Quisah. My wife is also of that kind - besides many other things setting ultimatums - now we are living almost 4000 km away from each other. Sorry, this wouldn´t be a PARTNERship.

[quisath]

I really Love it it here in Austin Randygal......so I'll be staying here for sure. I have to tell you all that I appreciate each and everyone of you. Your support means a lot. (pixies are the Greatest)

I'm going to throw myself into my work for awhile and just heal. I'm not going to be on the WEB for awhile so I just want you to know that I'll be fine...............Cowboys always get back on that BUCKIN HORSE> ;) Love you all and I'll be close.

[RandyGal]

ACK!!! NO WEB????

We surely will miss you.

Hang in and smile. Joy comes when you least expect it. :)