It might cause problems if you shout it out too loud when you've got her bent over the freezer in the grocery store...

i don't see why you can't discuss it first. you don't have to wait till just before sex. ask her now and if she's game, use it later.

Sometimes that doesn't even matter....she doesn't have kids does she?

Scotz - she's liable to hit me with a god damn turkey! ha ha

wyndhy - You bring up a very good point. Just because we discuss it now doesn't mean it's what's on the menu for the evening. Breaking into a conversation like that will require a video with similar action though. Mrs. WI's not the kind of person that one says "I've been thinking of rough sex and in acting it out...I may want to call you a bitch. What do you think of that? Any feedback?" to. She's more of a "That looks fun, does the idea of it interest you?" kinda person. Excellent post! Thank you!

whatever works...you know her better than i. :D

i know i don't usually like discussing what's on the sexual menu, kinda kills it for me; makes it seem too planned or scripted...i'd much rather let the mood take us where it will and follow blithely along.

I don't have a "plan" persay, but I definately get in the mood for something in particular sometimes. To be blunt, I miss cunnilingus when I don't get my fill. ha ha

I'm so with Wyndhy on this one.....talking about things just before, can take the whole spontaneity away from it. However talking about it per se is a good idea.....maybe when you're snuggled up at night, close together in the dark, when you've no intention of having sex, or else you have just had it.

I know I would be thrilled to be given any kind of kinky request for future use. I try and catalogue the things my man particularly likes to be used again in future!

I've always known that the best time to bring sex up in a conversation was when you have no intentions of having it. You don't want to run the risk of having the person you're talking to think you're bringing it up because you want to have sex because you are looking for something and not because you enjoy being intimate with them.

I guess what I was looking for with this thread was some personal feedback on how women that enjoy this kind of interaction prefer being introduced to it. And obviously because we're not all the same...the answer lies in how well we all know our mates and how free they feel about expressing their thoughts.

Sure makes for interesting and thought provoking conversations though.

Thanks all!

All I know is that I'd LOVE for him to say that to me in the bedroom! I'd especially love it if I was blindfolded and/or tied up. Oh yes!

Big difference between being a bitch and being your bitch, being a slut and being your little slut.

^^^^She's got that right!

Well when we were really crazy and going at it I said "gawd your a hot bitch" and drove into her deep.................... by her response, I don't think she minded at all!!! :D

Hell yes.....and i would love to be someones Bitch or Slut right now........

Yes indeed there is a time and place for words!

For some lousy reason I do NOT ever like to be called a cunt. I don't like my pussy to be called a cunt. I HATE the word cunt! It makes the hairs stand up on the back of my neck. Might be from the area I was raised, I dunno. I know some folks from around the world routinely refer to a woman's pussy, or even a woman, as a cunt. It's HARSH and it's not sexy to me in any context!

As to "bitch"? I've heard, "Com'on you sexy bitch...squeeze me tight"...and stuff like that. In the moment and in it's context, it put me over the edge. In the moment you ask? I can tell when we are on the edge...when intense is working it's way to "fuck me raw"!! It's a matter of knowing your partner I think.

If, on the very first time I am with someone and they call me "bitch"...they'd better back up cause I am gonna smack the shit outta them! The word "bitch" can have so many meanings and conotations, and can be used in so many different context's that I think...I think...I have to know you well enough to catch your drift!

Make sense?