Who cum's 1st
 

This is a bit of an old chestnut question I know. It would be nice to have a quick vote and see the results.

What I am asking is, in your steady sexual relationships which of you, male or the female, USUALLY cums first.

I was in the habit the habit of waiting for her to cum first. But Mrs Xpose introduced me to the idea that I might cum first, then I can concentrate and help her to reach her orgasm, perhaps by using my fingers and tongue, cocks usually too soft :(

But the important thing is that there is no routine, and we can cum, and go as we please.

What do you think?

when i first started to have sex with my man he made a concentrated effort for me to cum first but the frustration just about killed the pair of us!! in theory it sounds dead sweet but in actual fact my guy usually ends up gettin so turned on when hes tryin to get me to cum that we have to stop everything to let him calm down. so now he usually comes first....but hey whos complainin coz that bits fun for me too and it means that ive got his attention for as long as i want it without any interuptions!!

It varies
 

but most of the time I make sure my wife comes first. I love licking and eating her pussy, even more so than her do me, and this alone is enough to bring me to the edge. It doesn't take much from there to push me over;)

The girls orgasm
 

Is quite amazing, it is great to just watch on, and maybe lend a helping hand. Love my fingers squelching around in her pussy sopping with a combination of hers and my juices.

Agree entirely TummyKitten (great name too)

unless it's that time of month, and she's just giving me some relief :D , she cums first... & 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th, etc....

I usually let my wife have a few orgasms first, then I blow my load...and if she wants more and I am soft, I either finger her or use her toys to let have a couple more. On average she has about 7-8 a love making session. I am happy with 1 or 2!

But sometimes I can blow my load just like that!!

Like just now, when I saw Diva's pics!! And what a big one it was ;)

1st ?
 

She cums 1st no matter what!!!......
I have always made sure that in my years the lady cums first!
and like scotzoidman said, and 2nd and 3rd and 4th.....;-)

:p :D

She does
 

but thats because i like haveing her go that way by the time the second one comes around i blow my load bigger and longer than if i went right away.

Who cums first,
Most of the time she does. I really enjoy eating pussy and she really enjoys having her pussy eaten so that makes pretty certain that she goes first. Then we try to time our orgasms together when were fucking like crazy.:D

Who cums 1st?
 

Using my;toungue or fingers;I always get my wife off 3 times!
Even when we were going together,she always could orgasm;at
least;3 times.After that what we do always varies.I have found
that;thru the years;if you keep the other person satisfied it's
always easy to have contact with them again.They know that
you don't think only of yourself and are not going to be frustrated!
If the other isn't satisfed then it is not enjoyable for me! Irish

Wow..all your wives are lucky!!!!!!!

He usually ends up cumming first!!! Then he needs a 1/2 hour break....
Guess he can't handle me ;)

My sex life sucks...... lol.. glad I have my toys!!!!!!!!!

She does
 

It's more fun and it has worked for us for 25 years:)

together
 

It is so much fun to cum together. We have a penalty system and the one that comes first has to do what the other one wants for the next 3 days. hehe some fun. I win a lot.:)

Now that's the...
 

to keep a relationship fresh. I think my wife and I will borrow a page from your book J.O.Y.

Coming
 

She does, because that's the way we like it.

When we "race" the one who comes first buys a

nice bottle of Merlot.

I Love to win!

I Do
 

I usually cum a few times before he does.

He really gets off making me cum. Then when he finally cums,

it's either in my mouth or deep inside my pussy............................

Either way we both end up very satisfied !!!!!!!!!

My wife cums first! Always! When I'm fucking her from behind, she's rubbing her clit to orgasm. This may happen two or three times before its my turn and when I do, she can feel my load going off inside of her.

She does
 

You always hear about the guy cumming and leaving her to want... So I make sure shes exhausted. I have tried to see how many times she would cum before I did. It backfired once and left me hanging so to speak.

Am I spoiled?
 

I always cum first, several times is not unheard of.. but I make sure to save up enough to cum with him when he explodes.... it's most satisfying to cum at the same time.

I don't think that most of you guys are being totally honest. Men get too horny too quick and normally cum first. I personally cum first if I fuck my wife with nothing else, I like to make her cum first with licking her and finger fucking her, until she leaks her cum all over my face and sheets.

i usually try to get the lady i'm with off first, and then i can blow, after that just try to build up to that cresendo, where she cums just from the sensitivety of all the stimulation, and then try to cum together

hard question for me to answer
when haveing sex i allways delay cumming
go till your just about to cum then back off
keep doing it till you can stand it no longer
then when you do cum bang the earth moves
you here music
tho some times you just need a fast fuck

My wife always cums first as I get great satisfaction if she does

We tend to race and i tend to lose cause superman is just so talented. but then again i have my days

She Cums First, Whenever Possible
 

I always try to make her cum first. Cock, tongue, finger, toe, whatever it takes. I don't rush, it's not a race. The amount of time is not particularly an issue (unless we're doing it in public). Just the moment.

I agree - the woman cumming first seems to work best. Like in 69, for example - I always find that if he cums first, he's too overwhelmed afterwards for me to cum.

Men who want the woman to cum first tend to be more selfless - but some of you who've replied to this thread do it differently and it seems to work just as well for you! :)

Normaly when I get it she comes first :D

I have this werid deal with condoms. Can't feel a dang thing, so she ends up coming before me. :redghost:

I would like to think we cum together, but it is only 50% of the time that happens. I'll never cum first if it's just penetrative sex, I must have lots of foreplay and oral. That's what gets me to my orgasm.

Twisted always makes sure I cum at least once before we do together(we usually do). I know that I am spoiled.... I ususally have several orgasms before he does, but that is the way he likes it. I have to agree with Steph... selfless men are better in bed.

She does 90% of time. I really enjoy feeling her cum, she usually gets 1-2 or 3 etc, I have had a mega shag fest where I got her to orgasm 11 times. Love eating her pussy, love sucking her nipples to orgasm. If I come first I feel drained but I always do all I can to get her to Nirvana.

When I had a boyfried he always came first between my cheeks.

A.

It always used to be that I came first - lack of control being the main problem, especially with a new partner. Now I try and either cum with her or shorlty afterwards.

However, as Lady Tango said, it helps to get Buckslady worked up with a lot of oral and finger foreplay, then when I penetrate, her clit is already highly stimulated.

I hate cumming before the woman does. I usually eat my way to her orgasm a few times then poke her good until she cums again :) Control is the key ;)

My DW is soooo sensitive, she usually comes just as I'm penetrating....then 4 or 5 times before I get there, and then 2 or 3 more while i'm just resting there, inside her, feeling her pussy spasm around my wilting member.

she does without a doubt!

Honestly it depends on how long it has been since I've had an orgasm last. My penis will be especially sensitive if it's been a long time and therefore it's more difficult to control things. My S/O usually climaxes first, in ideal circumstances.

My wife is usually incapable of vaginal orgasms! Which of course means more joy for me as I get to eat her to make her cum BEFORE intercourse. The feeling inside a just-cummed woman is HEAVEN!!!

Actually, we generally come just about at the same time--the movements she makes as she comes will generally drive me over the edge. Also, she likes it vigorous as she comes which also is likely to push me over the edge.


As to the earlier poster who feels that many of the men on here are lying--a lot of it comes down to what you do to her. If you have sex like in a porno movie you aren't going to last very long and she's probably going to be far from orgasm when you blow.
Instead, we have two basic actions: A gentle thrusting that doesn't really involve the traditional in-out movement. I remain basically fully penetrated but alter how I'm pressed against her. It's not as intense as traditional sex but I'd much prefer 20 or 30 minutes this way to a few the traditional way.
The other thing we do is a very slow full stroke, taking perhaps 10-15 seconds to fully withdraw and reinsert, then often remaining pressed against her for another 5-10 seconds as she bucks from the intensity.

My GF and I don't have full intercourse because she won't until she's married... so it's just limited to hand/fingers and oral. I pretty much take care of her first because she seems to like it that way. I wonder if that takes care of all her enthusiasm since she seems kinda straight-forward on satisfying me... no teasing or anything. When I don't get her off first she often gives more effort....

You mean that someones supposed to come?No wonder;we always get so frustrated;during sex;and avoid it;if possible.Our
daughters(2);were concieved;by immaculate conception! Irish