Originally Posted by Zephreck

My experiences are that any position as long as comfortable for both of you can be good and sometimes what works one day well may not be as desirable the next...

Having said that..

I think it is important to remember a few things about women being on top:

1) Some women are self conscious body wise and don't like the position because they don't feel ok to "display" so much of their body. You need to work on reassuring her of her body and especially the areas she may hate the most.

When doing so remember flattery = bullshit if it isn't genuine. If she has a gut and you both know it and you don't find it sexy then don't try to bullshit her into thinking it is sexy. Instead find something that is. Run your hand down her sides, take your time and kiss around her bellybutton, concentrate on the bottom slopes of her breasts, caress the tops of her thighs. Use your lips, mouth, fingertips and even the sides of your face and hair to caress her body. Take some time exploring her body and as you find places you love on her kiss them and vocally tell her not just which specific parts of her body you love but why.

To go along with this try indirect lighting or sometimes even complete darkness is good. Sometimes this is the only way she can truly get over her inhibitions. Small candles set away from the bed, soft music, incense or other things to set the mood can also have an affect that helps.

You may also want to find something sexy for her to wear that allows some cover such as a silky short robe that is open so that you have access to her breasts but allows her some covering for the parts she finds less flattering.

2) Clitoral stimulation may not be sufficient from your cock alone in this position. And she may be shy or unable to properly stimulate it herself so you need to give her a hand. Literally.

Try to slide one of your hands down palm upwards and let your middle finger and or index finger depending on size of her clit and how much surface friction she wants. Talk to her. Ask her if she wants you to caress her clit. Look deep in her face. Read her facial and hip reflexes and start very softly caressing it while she rides you. Depending on how far forward or how far back she leans as she is riding you the amount of the pressure can vary. Be sensitive to it and remember you don't have to perfect it the first time.

3) Make eye contact. Make sure she can see your face and talk to her (assuming she likes to hear you talk) Keep your hands moving on her body, caressing her nipples, guiding her hip, occasionally brushing her cheek with your hands and making her lean forward and kissing you. During the slower paced momements draw her close to you and kiss her deeply but slowly and make her look into your eyes. Remember that sex isn't just about getting off but also about building intimacy between the two of you. The more intimacy you can build the better the sex will be and the more she will enjoy it regardless of the position.

4) Some women that are heavy breasted especially may be uncomfortable a bit due to not having support for their breasts. Be conscious of this and when needed use your hands to caress and suppore the weight of them. You can position your hands in such a way that your fingers slide on either side of her nipples as she rides you and the natural sway of her body back and forth can cause great stimulation to them in this way.

5) Be creative in altering the position. Place a few pillows under your lower back so that she is leaning forward sometime and try that. The extra elevation can allow you to have harder , deeper thrusts. Hold her hands and allow her to lean back or sit up with your arms around her allowing her to lean back and allowing deeper penetration. Some women enjoy straddling you but facing your feet, some don't. Talk to her and find out if there is a variation of being on top that she prefers. If there is try that out. If she isn't sure be playful and try to encourage her to try out several of them to find one she does.

Main thing is be creative and communicate to her. And if after trying out these things and some of the suggestions of others. But at no time force or pressure her to ride you if she isn't at least partially comfortable. If she isn't comfortable it won't be pleasant for her and will only negatively reinforce the idea of it being a "bad" position.

Just my two cents.

/bow

Zeph.