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okay lots of really nice keywords here folks!

Thank you all for your advice.... although I think if two people have a unconditional love for each other as my husband and I do I think they should let the other do as they plesae with no bounderies as long as no lines are crossed without the other knowing it first. If two people really trust each other then anything is possible.

look at the word were all jumping on first, unconditional. no we'll hit that last.

Trust isn't usually given unless earned. How do you earn it? by following the rules and being honest, not just to them but to yourself. If you dont want to give up "Option #2" then really think it over why ...... was the sex better? did he listen better? is he more fun? did he pay more attention to certain things, take his time in places yours doesnt? look at what makes him different and makes him SO different that youre willing to sacrafice this relationship of unconditional love for mere friendship with a fuck buddy. oops unconditional, not yet not there yet!

Doing what you please isn't really an adult view of the world. we make tough decisions everyday. we all know I'm rather smitten over LordSnow. for the last 2 weeks a guy at work has been doing his dead-level best to crawl in my pants. I chided, scolded, and flat-out said no and the guy was still working on me. I told LS about what was going on and told him that I wasnt interested in the other man but that I did want him to know what was going on. LS told me he trusted me. now, my honesty through our relationship got me this trust. but damn if some of the shit this guy was saying didnt sound like fun to a poor horny girl who only gets laid every 2 weeks for 3 days then drives 120 miles home again. so at night I spent more time talking to him to be certain I didnt forget the wonderful thing I have goin for me right now. now then, had I done as I pleased as I did when I was younger I'd have men in different cities. I was dating 3 or 4 men at once and one knew about all of em but the rest didnt have a clue. The I wanna do what I wanna do and damn the consequences is a very sophomoric way to view anything except home decor, unless you want to do a farm-themed red green and mustard ROOSTER theme kitchen in a modern style house.........

ok ok buzz words used, trust, "do as they please..." OH I have more on that one! I also always told those guys I was dating, "I won't always be around when you want to fuck, you do who and what you wat to do but dont bring anything back to me that cries or is catching." years later I look at that and realiize if LS were to ask for the same arrangment, I'd be crushed. I have decided I'm worth being someones one and only. I am worth someone making a sacrafice to only fuck MY ass.... we look at other ppl together I dont care if he fantacizes about angelina jolie or Lilith but she grabs his butt at Pimp, I'll take HER to the dungeon.ok no i wont but you get the point.

damn down to unconditional and lines crossing......

trust and boundaries are conditions. Love is at least in the visible way on this plane, also constrained by the condition of breathing. boundaries are a condition, if you cross a boundary you're disrespecting the person, how can you trust a person who is disrespectful and honestly, why would you wanna do whatever you wanna do with someone that is disrespectful of your wants and needs? and why would he? Why would option #2 have any reason to trust in you being anything more than just a piece of ass to be swayed by the new next thing. I've grown tired of looking over the horizin looking for better than what I have. I've stopped looking for a new person to complete my life. I feel pretty damn whole. I've given a few things up for LS to the dismay of a Pixie or two as well as some old WOW buddies, I'm not as much fun as I used to be but I'm happy and need and want less attention from other men beyond wanting them to be jealous of my guy...childish I know. but I want other men to say " hes so lucky I wish I could have that!" not "hey look you see that ass? I was bangin it last night that chump beside her doesnt know it!"

not only that but the blatent disrespect you showed for the other man involved is shocking. not telling him you're otherwise committed? there are some men in this world with morals and scruples and they tend to fall for the wrong ppl. ppl who are doing things that the guys wouldnt have gotten caught up in had they known. and if after finding out that you are committed he is still willing to be your friends I'd lay money that he expects to get laid again despite his "status change"
wow I've not been on in what? 3 weeks? there PF love, satisfied??

Kyttn