hi, i am the infamous girlfriend..............I guess i just want to explain why i am sooo upset about this. I love nic very much, and i'm the kind of person who isn't happy unless the person i'm with is happy. I'm a big pleaser and I take it as a sign that i'm not doing what i should be if he isn't getting off. I want our relationship to have a great give/take balance, and i feel like i am taking too much when this happens. I have been with very selfish guys before, who want to make sure that they get theirs before i get mine, so being with a sweet, caring guy who doesn't care is a big change for me. I want to try, and believe me, we will try all of the things that you have suggested, especially the not stressing out ones thanks for all of your help, and keep it coming!! we appreciate it.