As some of you know I have been seperated from my soon to be ex-wife sine the first part of May. My partner at work has been flirting with me. She has told me what ind of colonge gets her going, what she likes doing on different dates, first, second and so on. She has called me sexy, we throw sexual banter back and forth. She has helped me pick out clothes and complimented me on what I look good in. Through all of this it took a very good girl friend to point out that she was flirting with me, because I have been out of the dating game for a while. Well, anyway, my partner, whose name is Rachel, and I went out to a movie. I wasn't quite sure whether it was a date or not, so I didn't pay for her ticket. She already had her pocket book out. After the movie we did some cd shopping for her. The whole time we were talking about our likes in music and just about everything. When we got back to my place she put her car in park. we chatted for a minute more and I got out of the car to get ready for work which was in two hours. The next day she wouldn't answer my calls. When I did get a hold of her she seemed uncomfortable. Here's the question: When the car was in park should I have tried for a kiss, a hug, invited her inside? What is she feeling right now, rejection? I really like her she is great. I have thought about asking her out to coffee after she gets off work tomorrow morning and just telling her what I feel. Good or bad idea?
When answering remember that it has been 9 YEARS since I have been on a date with some one other than my wife.

Thank you in advance to all who help the dating dummy.

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Coffee is good. Over coffee tell her how you are unsure of her feelings/been out of the dating loop too long and don't want to do anything to screw up a great partnership but that you dig her. Honesty and openess are a beautiful thing.

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Yeah, sounds like you're at that friendship stage so it's tough to take the deep breath and ask her what her feelings might be.

Make sure you know your feelings first because you know she's going to want to know!

It sounds promising to me!

My advice..

Be honest with her... tell her that you aren't good at reading signs.. that you are indeed interested in her.. but that you need her to be more up front on what her ideas of the friendship are.. .

I wish you lots of luck... HUGS

I'm not one to give dating advice but I'll echo what those great ladies said before me, and give you a :hug: ( that looks like a naughty hug lol) for luck

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I don't think I can add anything to all the good ideas already posted. But I do know what you mean; I hadn't dated anyone else in 25 years. It isn't just that it's been so long but that you are a totally different person X numbers of years later and the "rules of the game" so to speak will likely have changed too. Good luck!

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Soooo, any updates?

It sounds like you two hit it off. Tell her "I owe you a movie...what would you like to see?"

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