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My boyfriend and I have an amazing sex life. I would say we're quite adventurous.

We're both very curious about anal sex. He says he's curious but if I'm not keen, its fine with him, cos he's not that fussed.

I really do want to try it, I'm just terrified it'll hurt!

I would be grateful if you could post your views/experiances, male and female.

Thanks :fly:

Hi Tink.....the key is to relax and to use lots and lots of lube..everyone will say it....and it is that easy....taken slowly..with lots of open communication....it is wonderful.....amazing....i love it. But and especially the first time go slow...and lots of lube....take your time penetrating too...so you can relax....and stop if you need to....wait a while then try again..but dont be put off...it can be incredible

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Hi, TinkerBell!

When you are ready for the penetration, you might find this tip helpful. Get on all fours in the doggy style position. Have you man kneel behind you and have him line his erect penis up with your anus. Instead of him thrusting into you, have him be still and not move. When you are ready, just back up onto his penis. This way, you get to control the depth and speed of the penetration. I hope that helps!

I'm a big one for reading up on a subject before I do it. The following sites have great information and suggestions.

http://www.libida.com/content/howto...2&id=1134571316

http://www.puckerup.com/anal_advisor/anal.htm

Keep in mind that the anus has 2 sphincters. The first one, or outer one, the one we see when we look at our anus, is the one we can open and close voluntarily. The 2nd one, or inner one, is not voluntary. That's what will hurt if you try to push something through it before it has relaxed and opened, which it gradually will with ever so gentle pressure from a finger or toy or penis. It just takes a bit of patience (and a lot of lube, as people have said), especially before you've done much anal sex, because it's not used to you trying to go the wrong way down its oneway street.

I also strongly advise you to have your partner use a condom, even if you do not have to practice safe sex; it will keep him from possibly getting a urinary tract infection (my partner learned the hard way). Plus, I found for me that semen is a strong natural laxative, and I don't particularly like having to spend the next couple of hours in the bathroom.

I think it's definitely worth trying; I know I love it. Good luck!

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I don’t know if this will help but here is some of my advice. This is written from a male view point and I hope it does not sound like I am preaching. So with that out of the way lets get to the good stuff.

There is a simply but very complicated three step process to having anal sex I will try to explain.
Step 1. Relaxation
Step 2. Preparation
Step 3. Lubrication
Anal intercourse is not really something the man decides on, there or very few occasions when he says “this is what I am doing, and your going to like it”. He may say this is what I want!, but if the lady is not in the mood and mind set for anal play all the lube in the world will not help.
You have to first convince, your lady to not only try, anal play but to want anal play, she can’t do it just for you and not have some discomfort. The very first thing that must be done and this is the hardest part, is to relax your partner, you must get her to unwind, calm down, sooth her feelings and her body, get her to open up and most important to TRUST you. She has to know that you will not hurt her. This step is crucial I can’t stress enough how important relaxing her is. With my wife of 11 years and in discussions with friend it seams that for couples to reach this level of trust and understanding takes along time to develop. Anal intercourse might be something you will have to wait on for your lady to come around too, and if you care about her you don’t want push her on this.
Now if you can get her relaxed and “in the mood” start slow try something like gently rubbing one finger around the anus use a circular motion or a tickling motion. Do this for a few minutes while you kiss her lips and the rest of her body use your other hand to caress her all over, pay attention to how she reacts and listen to her breathing? You can tell a lot about how your girl feels by the ways she breaths. When SHE is ready NOT when you are ready, slowly insert one finger into her anus make sure you use lots of lube try doing this while you are going down on her and licking her pussy, it seems to help if you give the women another feeling or sensation to help take her focused away from the anal insertion. After you get your finger in let it rest in her for a minute or so let her adjust to the size before you start moving, if things have gone well she will begin to rock her hips and slide up and down al by herself. Let her set the pace and depth she feels comfortable with. Talk to her, ask, how she is doing and if she likes it. Believe me you will be able to tell if she is not enjoying things up to this point, if she doesn’t like it STOP back of and continue with regular intercourse. DO NOT make a big deal over a failed attempt, Let her set the pace, you can always try again another time, but do not try every time this will just build up anxiety in her and you will never get anywhere because she knows what is coming and will think you are obsessed with this type of sex. If things go well with one finger then more on to two or try using a small sex toy, after a few minutes of this try moving on to actual anal intercourse. Make sure you use lots of lube on both you and her. You might want to try a couple of different positions doggie-style works well, but I seam to have trouble with the initial insertion in this position, try spooning where you both lying on your side and you snuggle up be hind her, or try having her on top some women like this because they can control how deep and fast things go. What ever position you try this is the easy part if you made it through to this point then you are home free. Just don’t try to JAM IT IN and pay attention to how your lady is reacting to this after all this is a much bigger deal and experience for the girl than it is for the man.

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TinkerBell69-

I can tell you this is a pleasure worth the effort for both parties. That's probably why it's been a topic here in the past. You shouldn't have to read around too much to get a lot more very helpful info.

I know we'd all love to hear about it after you've had your first experience. Keep notes. lmao





(save the distractions of pictures for the second time)

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TinkerBell69---My wife&I tried it years ago&it was uncomfortable
for her.We never persued it after that because there are to many other things that we enjoy sexually.A previous girlfriend wanted me to do it,but when I entered her with my finger,I could feel something in there.Kind of a mood killer.She said that her husband liked it.I said"Good,Let him do it!" Irish

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