Hi there Nic_Hex, Im with PlayfulTigress on the 69 idea, it is really good fun for both involved!

Your girlfriend is making things really hard on herself (and as a reult you), heck I wouldn't want to have to go down on my bloke under that pressure. Is she this hard on herself about other things in her life?

I guess there's no easy answer, it would be good if you could encourage her to play around with the rest of the experience rather than the end result. You know what it is like when there's something upsetting you, you keep thinking about it and focusing on it and soon you stop enjoying the other things that are good.

I hope it works out for you both.
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