Well, now, it's gotten so complex that I don't even understand anymore... but I think it's a great idea to hold off on sex, and just please each other manually and/or orally until you both are comfortable with it... which leads to another idea... maybe she doesn't want to get you off, because then she'd have to let you lick her off, then she might get carried away and want you inside her, and then... well, as you say, who knows...

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